👍 Encouragement!

[SummerIsTooHOT]

[1] You are LUVED.

[2] And you are STRONG.

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[OldMarriedMan]

Hello Nicole,

Thanks for your post. We can all use some words of encouragement from time to time. 🙂

Is this a chat somewhere else?

DAILY CHATS AND DISCUSSIONS ABOUT LIFE

I want to start a virtual pen pals group and I'm looking for a forum to call home...

[SummerIsTooHOT]

Hi @OldMarriedMan , if you look underneath your USERNAME for this site you will see YOUR TITLE of Regular Contributor. New People are Newbie. As you guys POST on this site, these titles will keep CHANGING. Personally, I could NOT careless but I guess it ENCOURAGES folks to post = promotions I guess.  🙄

Nicole  👵

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[*** MILT @OldMarriedMan wrote:

Hello Nicole, thanks for your advice. I had responded to @wilful via PM and had not heard back yet. I have some questions about the site. Like how did you get the tag line "Esteemed Social Butterfly"? I like it. 

Warm regards,

Milt ***]

[SummerIsTooHOT]

@VenaE974710  , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** VENA @VenaE974710 wrote:

I lost my wonderful husband last October. We were only married 6 years! We knew each for 15 years, but being married really made a difference in the way in how we cared for each other. We were long distance the first two years so really we just had 4 years together. Add a brain tumor diagnosis and we just had 2 "normal " years together.

It  is hard living alone; mostly not being able to share daily life with him anymore. We made our dreams come true and then whammo, they came  tumbling down. It breaks my heart to have lost him and for him to deteriorate over the 18 months.:{  ***]

[mc6844]

Vena, I'm sorry for your loss of your husband. They say your loved ones are with you always. There's a topic on the forum about signs from your loved ones. There's so much we don't know about life beyond. But it's not your time to go there yet. Or else you'd be there. Look for signs of familiarity and hope. While staying grounded in daily activities. The people on this forum are lovely and kind. They will help you through their own experiences. Take care!

[SummerIsTooHOT]

👣 1 Step At A Time!!!

[SummerIsTooHOT]

@tttttt , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** @tttttt wrote:

Good evening 

My husband Ron passed away 9/13/2023 and I need to get into a group that will help me through this. Or I may have a nervous break down. ***]

[mc6844]

I'm so sorry for your loss of your dear husband Ron. Please stop in at the forum when you can. It will give you insights and ideas. And help to lighten your grief.

[SummerIsTooHOT]

@CarolD435501 , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** CAROL @CarolD435501 wrote:

It is so hard,,,,,lost my husband of 32 years April 15th 2023....some days I seem to go forward,,,and then I fall back more days then I gained.....How long do I have to feel this,,,,no one knows,,,,but talking the others may help.../. ***]

[mc6844]

Carol, so glad you stopped by. This forum and the good people here can offer encouragement and hope. Each time you stop by it helps to lighten your grief. Take it easy, and take care! I know it's not easy.

[SummerIsTooHOT]

@AlisaH435648 , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** ALISA @AlisaH435648 wrote:

My sweet husband died after a difficult surgery November 6th. I don't know how to live in this big house alone, it's so quiet. The upkeep is alot. Every room has a memory and story and shared items. I feel so heavy, my arms and legs. So **bleep** sad. I worry about money, still waiting for an attorney to do thier part (filing with courts) so I can fulfil my duty set forth in his living will. I'm just damned frightened and so so sad. I suppose this isn't one challenge. It's a challenge to just be me right now...   ***]

[mc6844]

Alisa, I'm so sorry for your loss. It is frightening at times to be on your own. I saved errands for those times that I found difficult. All of it is challenging. But things settle in time. I've found counseling helpful during difficult times in life. Please take care!

[SummerIsTooHOT]

👣  1 Step At A Time!!!

[SummerIsTooHOT]

@JuliaB831263  , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** JULIA @JuliaB831263 wrote:

Thank you for those virtual hugs I needed today after I lost my 18 year old Alexis from a cancerous brain tumor known as "Glioblastoma" ***]

[mc6844]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Julia. The good people on the forum can help you cope. While going through grieving there is still the need to try and keep up with everyday life. Some days are just a standstill. Two steps forward, one step back. You are doing well, reaching out. Short walks, sunshine helps. Just do what you can. Take care.

[SummerIsTooHOT]

Cadee @Cadee2719 , YOU are in my thoughts TODAY! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

Hi Nicole.  Still unpacking 🤪  Met a neighbor, so friendly.  She invited me to the 4th of July block party.  This was the right decision for me.  How is your daughter doing?  How are YOU doing?  I don't have my computer hooked up yet so I apologize as I am using my phone and it is harder to use.

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@SummerIsTooHOT wrote:

(4/24/24) Cadee @Cadee2719 , YOU are in my thoughts TODAY! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[SummerIsTooHOT]

“Never. WE never lose our loved ones. They accompany us; they don’t disappear from our lives. WE are merely in different rooms.”

~~Paulo Coehlo

[KimberlyM389662]

Nicole,  I am trying to have faith but, I am having a really hard time. My disability has been denied for a second time. I contacted another lawyer because,  mine point blank s**ks. The only contact is initiated by me and I am tired of it. It's been 3 years and nothing. I told my BFF that I am either ready for the looney bin or death, whichever comes first. I am just struggling very badly. I don't know what else to do. I can't take care of my house, myself and feel like I am a crappy Mom for my son.I have no money,  bank account is in the red and have no way to pay for anything. On top of all that, my Mom was diagnosed with mild dementia and I am all she has because my brother is being a douchebag and is looking for homes in Florida.  He is not speaking to us because I finally after years told his wife off and how I feel about her. Also he is trying to say that I am committing elder abuse because Mom has been helping me pay bills. Then my daughter said that she would have to testify against me and then I would lose my son to the state because she couldn't "take him right now. Maybe in a few years." This is her BROTHER and she doesn't want him. Like I really need this right now. I also had eye surgery on Friday to have benign tumors removed  I just don't know what to do. 

[SummerIsTooHOT]

@KimberlyM389662 , it is SO HARD at times dealing with Family.

YOU ARE ONE AWESOME AND STRONG WOMAN!!!

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[SummerIsTooHOT]

@DianeE3158 , I hope you will stop by AGAIN! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** DIANE @DianeE3158 wrote:

 My husband passed away on 2/22/24 and I am having a hard time emotionally.  I don't know what to do. It's like I am in a "brain fog". I need direction and I need help. Should I seek out a psychiatrist? I don't have any friends to talk to and I don't belong to any groups. I live in a tiny rural town. Any suggestions would be helpful. Thank you! ***]

[mc6844]

Diane, I'm sorry for your loss. A big loss, indeed. If you don't feel up to in person, an online counselor can be very helpful at this time. There are websites that offer free counseling. Building up a few resources can give you a sense of control and stability. Just do what you feel up to each day. Short walks, sunshine helps too. Please take care. 

[SummerIsTooHOT]

Yikes  @Cadee2719   😱😱😱  and SO SORRY this is happening  😭  HANG IN THERE STRONG LADY. As we always say 👣 (1 step). As we AGE, we will be "chauffered" around/lol. Try to do what you can. Please keep us updated when you can  🤗

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[***  CADEE @Cadee2719 wrote:

 I need some "encouragement"!  Took my car in on the 17th.  Needs a new gas tank.  I was smelling gas.  They could not find the leak.   Ordered a new tank on the 18th.  They called me on the 20th. - BACKORDERED!!!!!!  I told them I have doctor appointments next week and they CANNOT keep my car for a week and not fix it.   S T I L L    W A I T I N G...........  ***]

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[Cadee2719]

Just got my car back.  Hoping they really fixed it!  We shall see.  One more Step Forward. 

[Sea2Summit]

I'm glad it finally worked out in the end...

[Cadee2719]

  The saga continues........ They got the gas tank.  While removing the old one they broke the clip holding the tank (the car is old) and had to order one from CHICAGO!!  They have had my car a week and I am still waiting for the repairs to be done and this is a dealership doing the repair!!!!!  I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow and I am promised that if my car is not done, they will  have someone take me to the doctors.???  I have been very patient but this is getting ridiculous.   I cannot wait to get out of this state.

[Cadee2719]

 I need some "encouragement"!  Took my car in on the 17th.  Needs a new gas tank.  I was smelling gas.  They could not find the leak.   Ordered a new tank on the 18th.  They called me on the 20th. - BACKORDERED!!!!!!  I told them I have doctor appointments next week and they CANNOT keep my car for a week and not fix it.   S T I L L    W A I T I N G...........

[mc6844]

I don't know what I'm sharing has to do with grieving or will help anyone. But I find myself painting my kitchen. Clearing stuff out. No idea where I got the energy to do this. I guess people keep going even when they think they can't. It's a very small kitchen area, which is good. Don't ask me how I get involved in these things lol

[Cadee2719]

  You are accomplishing things to be done!  Doing things that you may have not had the time to do before.  Occupying your mind and keeping busy.  I will be painting my small bathroom.  😁  My preparing  to sell my home is keeping me busy and keeps my mind focused on the tasks. It makes my day go quicker.  Just pace yourself so as to not affect your health.  (That is what my brother says to me all the time.)  Take Care ❤️

[mc6844]

Thank you Cadee

[mc6844]

I'm glad things worked out for you Cadee!